Welcome to Mother-in-law Monday! [MILM] I decided I wanted to start doing ‘In-law’ posts every Monday When I told James about it, he gave me this unapproved look and said, “Soo what? You’re just going to bash my mom every Monday ” I told him no. That’s not what this is about. Yes I will share some of my crazy MIL stories, but I also want to touch on how to handle those situations, and hopefully some of you readers can share your in-law stories and I can give advice if needed too!
I guess when it boils down it could be worse. My MIL doesn’t hate me, she loves me. Her and James get along fine too. She does have her moments, where she’s unreasonable, crazy, sassy, holds grudges. It’s fantastic. [sarcasm] She also likes to do this thing where she ‘throws her money around’ to see if it’ll help her get what she wants. No she’s not rich, and she’s not poor, she’s just…odd.
For example, with our wedding. She has these really “great” ideas. Like on the morning of the wedding we should run down to the farmers market and pick out my wedding flowers instead of getting our hair done and getting ready for my wedding. She also is very opinionated on what kind of flowers I should get, has told me that I’ll regret having colored flowers, and not an all white bouquet. That I’ll regret having cupcakes and not an actual cake. That I should have gotten a band, not a DJ. She doesn’t like my choice of centerpieces, doesn’t understand why we’re getting married in a Lutheran church, [did I mention I’m Lutheran?] The list literally goes on.
But let’s get back to the ‘throw money around’ thing. I think one of my favorite examples is the rehearsal dinner fiasco. See she’s paying for the rehearsal dinner and is in love with this Irish Pub. Well this particular pub, I’ve eaten there once and I was so sick after, I was in and out of the bathroom the whole night and next day. Long story short, she wanted to have the dinner at the Irish Pub, and I didn’t. So I talked it over with James, and he agreed with me that we would have it somewhere else. Well that was NOT good enough for my MIL she yelled, she pleaded with James, she went behind my back, had ‘private’ conversations with James where he “wasn’t to tell me” [uh duh, he did] and things got ugly. But James and I stuck together, we talked things over, we agreed, and we told my MIL that in the end we were going to have the dinner where we wanted it, and if she didn’t like it, she didn’t have to pay for it.
Well things ended really good. No joke they did! She agreed, apologized [didn’t actually say sorry but apologized in her own way] said she didn’t want to start out our marriage by having a bad relationship with me. And we are now having our dinner where we want. 🙂 Have you found yourself in a similar situation? Let’s hear it! And if you ever find yourself in this kind of a situation, stay calm, talk things out with your man [or woman] and hash these things out together. It really will work out in the end!